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[quote=Anonymous]To me it kind of sounds like BIL and Sis’ marriage is going down the drain, and so maybe BIL avoided you OP bc he thinks you know more than you actually do about the state of his marriage. Like maybe he thinks your Sis has told you all this private stuff about them that she hasn’t. If I was on the cusp of a nasty divorce (doesn’t sound like an amicable one would be possible, given what you’ve told us about Sis), and I ran into someone from the other side of the family, it would probably visibly dampen my mood, and I might not jauntily go over and sit with said family members and act like everything is merry sunshine, esp since my kids weren’t there for me to have to put a show on for.

Of course, that doesn’t mean that there’s nothing going on w ice cream girl, and I think his behavior (not buying anything, sitting with random kid) was definitely kind of odd, but I’m just trying to suggest that the way he acted toward you in particular might better reflect the state of BIL’s relationship w your Sis in general, and less a reaction to you “catching him” in the shop.

Incidentally, and I’m just being nosy here, what was Sis out of town for? I assumed a business trip, but you said she stays at home.

I agree w PPs who advised you to simply say “Hey, good to see you in the shop! Who was that family you were sitting w?” Just so your conscience is clear and you don’t feel grimy about keeping silent. But if you do decide not to say anything and things go south w their marriage, I think it would be pretty easy to later on mention something to Sis along the lines of “Wait omg that just reminded me of the time I ran into him at the ice cream shop a couple years ago and I couldn’t tell if he was acting weird or not, like he didn’t really come and talk to us” ... “No like I just remembered.” ... “I mean honestly I kind of forgot about it bc it didn’t seem like a big deal, just felt something was off but couldn’t put my finger on it” without it turning into the big blowup later that some other posters here are predicting. But you know your fam, and we don’t. Best of luck either way.[/quote]

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