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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's so sad to hear about how many of us were sexually abused as children.[/quote]

Almost universally by family members, I noticed. Whenever people get up in arms up about "stranger danger" and the possibility that posting pictures of one's children on facebook will enflame the pedophiles, I just want to scream at them. It's almost guaranteed that the perpetrator of eventual abuse of your kids is ALREADY in your life. Parents should look at the facts, and focus their energies in the right place. [/quote]

True.  It's also alarming how many mothers don't believe their daughters. Fucking do something!!![/quote]

If DD told me that a family member was touching her inappropriately you can be sure I will do something about it.[/quote]

This is a very interesting point.  What do you think it is that makes these moms keep quiet?  Why do they feel shame?

When I was about 19 or 20, I had 3 separate occasions of flashers (one very scary in a multi-storey carpark - he followed me for quite some time and showed his wears several times) and one phone stalker who eventually threatened to "get me".  I lived with my mom at the time.  She behaved as if this was kind of normal and as if I was bringing it on myself by, perhaps, dressing provocatively or something.  I vowed that I would call the police immediately if my DD at any age told me she experienced something like that.  My mom never even suggested reporting the incidences.  But what interests me the most now is how she was thinking.  I can't really bear to ask her now.[/quote]

Do you think it's a generational/cultural thing? I feel like there are a certain group (or type?) of person-my parents included that would assume that if you were sexually harassed, you brought it on yourself.  There was a flasher that liked to hang outside my middle school that I had encountered a few times.  This was an all girls Catholic school and none of the (female) teachers did anything but tell us to ignore him.  The only thing we did to "provoke" him was being girls in school uniforms.  I guess something was eventually done because he stopped coming around after a couple weeks.[/quote]

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