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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why did you marry him?[/quote]

Because ADHD impacts multi-tasking, and frequently people get married before getting promoted to upper management, before having kids to pile on more responsibilities, before being homeowners, before having to care for elderly parents, all at the same time. And when life becomes a little complicated, this is when people with ADHD start not being able to cope. A young single person with no responsibilities expect to hold down one simple job will rarely exhibit any symptoms.

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Forgetting to feed a child is well beyond anything you describe[/quote]

I agree that in OP's case, there might be more going on!

But my husband with ADHD has missed feeding our kids. He has no internal clock and doesn't check what time it is, gets involved with a preferred task and completely ignores everything else. Which is why I had to do everything kid-related when they were little, for their own safety.

When you read about parents forgetting to bring their infant from the car to the daycare, and going to work, these are probably people with inattentive ADHD. 
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My H has ADHD. He also forgets to feed the kids. OP isn't being a bitch. Being married to these people is having your life blood and energy sucked out of you on a daily basis and they give you so little in return and don't get why you are upset. Its having the same conversation thousands of times because they never remember a damn thing. They don't even remember the previous discussion. H wasn't diagnosed until after marriage when the stressors hit. I out earn him and he will only agree to divorce if I pay for his rent for a 2 bedroom apartment. I couldn't possibly do that and still pay for all the other expenses and child related expenses too. Not to mention, I am terrified of a judge awarding any sort of custody to him for my children's safety. He will walk away from them in crowded spaces to buy a soda without even blinking. They are ages 6 and under. He doesn't see what the big deal is and feels completely justified because he was thirsty. When our oldest was learning to walk, he used to refuse to bring in his legs as she tried to walk by him. She would fall on her head and cry. He said if she fell on her head often enough, she would learn to avoid his legs. No concept that a 13 month old couldn't reason like that. [/quote]

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