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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]

Data is not the plural of anecdote.

Replace "choosing to forego sex for the next 6 years" if you'd like. 
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Oh come on like half of 30 year olds right now have divorced parents. Most of our lives weren't ruined. And this was divorce in the days when no one was talking about ways to do it right to protect the children and moms were always given custody.

And I personally think that choosing to forego sex for 6 years is a totally reasonable price to pay if you think your children's lives will literally be ruined. And I take issue with you dinging me on that as my entire problem with this poster is that they are hyperbolic and dramatic and using it to justify their decisions. I am using that poster (your?) language, not my own.[/quote]

Choosing to forego sex for 6 years is a violation of marital vows. If that's your choice and it's not for health reasons, you reap what you sow and you get no sympathy from me.[/quote]

There's no data that discovering an affair (if it even happens) "ruins" a kid's life as much or more than the challenges of a divorced family.

You've no way of knowing, and it's the dead certainty absent evidence that makes these comments seem absurd.

No one thinks affairs are acceptable and a good moral choice, but the idea that once a spouse unilaterally tanks the marriage, the other is obligated to take the course you're choosing for them is unsupported by anything.

It's fine to have that opinion, but the certainty is pompous.

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and imagine that you've never been in a position to carry the weight of an entire family once a spouse breaks the vows through sloth, denying sex, and basically abandoning everyone.  The fact you can't imagine being in those shoes is a gift I sincerely hope stays with you for life.

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Either you meant to quote the poster that responded to me or you misinterpreted my comment. I believe withholding of sex is a violation of marital vows and whether the other spouse chooses to file for divorce or join you in disrepecting the marriage is their call. But I put the blame squarely on the person that stopped having sex. Same goes for infrequent sex where one spouse refuses to discuss the topic and doesn't leave the other spouse with much choice.

If you don't want to have sex then stay single and hang out with your cats.[/quote]

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