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You sound like YOU are projecting on PP. PP has a happy marriage and sex life where they don't worry too much about frequency but it happens regularly and isn't a hot topic issue in their marriage. I'm sure maybe her husband masturbates. PP didn't say anything about that at all. They are different activities that don't always relate to one another. No one is arguing anything else here in this side bar.

If she and her husband are happy why do you feel the need to try to bring her down. My DH and I are super happy and have sex about once a week, sometimes a little longer in between. He's fine with it, I'm fine with it, I think both of us help ourselves out from time to time, we're fine with that too. I would agree that he doesn't get the emotional high from sex I do as much or as often but this works for us. If I had to have sex with my husband every day my vagina would hurt so much, nothing about what you described seems like a happy life to me. But that is your life and it works for you. I'm not saying you're doing it wrong, don't tell us we're doing it wrong. People are different and need different things. You are the only one making broad claims about an entire gender, not PP. [/quote]

Le sigh.  Let me separate the only line in your response that relates to my comment and respond to that.

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[b]I would agree that he doesn't get the emotional high from sex[/b] I do as much or as often but this works for us. [/quote]

So you and I feel the exact same way about the PP's comment. I was not judging the frequency of her relationship's sex.  I was pointing out that her views about how her husband feels when it comes to sex and feelings probably do not line up with his own views as much as she thinks they do.  You yourself are saying the same thing about men vs. women. I only offered the masturbation/sex every day anecdote as an illustration of how to men, needing an orgasm can be the same as needing to take a dump or brush their teeth. It can be an ordinary bodily function to them not always associated with deep connections as the PP implied.   I didn't say, "having sex ONLY x times a month is wrong." I said, "thinking your husband ONLY wants sex or ONLY has sex when there are deep emotions involved" is wrong.  You agree with me.

I didn't claim her husband is unhappy with their arrangement or that their arrangement doesn't work.  In fact, they probably only have sex once a month particularly because the husband has decided maintaining what makes his wife happy in return makes him happy.

Or maybe none of the above. We're having back and forth discussions about sex between adults.  If no one offered countering opinions on forums, forums would just be boring lists. [/quote]

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