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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a stay at home mom and many parents call on me for favors such as your neighbors and I actually enjoy helping people out. It makes me feel good and helps me to teach my child about performing acts of kindness and being a good friend/ neighbor. Some people reciprocate when I need a favor, some don’t. Doing nice things for others makes me feel good.

Try to think about setting an example for your child. It’s a great learning opportunity and think how nice it would be for the new parents of twins if you offered to do this for the school year for them. That is better then any other baby present or casserole they’ve received- I promise you that. [/quote]

The way I see it, it's only women who get called on for stupid favors like this, never men.[b] Are some women really desperate to be likable that they bend themselves backwards for others [/b]who won't ever reciprocate?
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Yes, this is it exactly for many. Everyone has an agenda. Everyone. And for many it is to help others so then they can feel relevant and needed and good about themselves. More power to those who need that confidence boost. But if OP does not and is finished helping for weeks more than most would, then it is her right to stop.[/quote]

Really? An agenda? Come on... what does that teach our children? So when you volunteer say to clean up a park or make sanwhiches for the homeless it’s for personal gain or to feel relevant? I5 makes me feel good inside to perform acts of kindness. I guess that’s my personal gain. I generally like helping people out if I can. [/quote]

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