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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.  DW works privately now and makes a good hourly rate, just doesn't work nearly enough hours.  She either needs to find more clients or get a job working for someone where the hourly rate is less but she works more hours and sees a higher annual income.  And to the PP saying get a higher paying job, even if I did make more, out of principle I believe DW should be working more now that kids are gone from 745-315 every day.  That was what we always said before kids.  To each their own, but I personally don't respect people as much if they aren't contributing, either by working or being s SAH parent to young children.[/quote]

She is contributing.  She's probably doing all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, most of the kids stuff like doctors, activities, and much more.  Its sad you don't appreciate her.  And, she is working and pulling in money.  If she works full time are you going to do all the things she is doing from 7:45-315 - doubtful.

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Op.  Wrong.  We split laundry and cooking, I usually clean the kitchen, we have a cleaning lady every two weeks, and I am very active with kid activities.  Taking the kids to doctor appointments, she does that so you got me there.[/quote]

People.

It's not fathers driving kids to activities that makes them split the family burden.

When husbands make themselves responsible for keeping track of the kids' events, remembering and planning and organizing and even initiating events (!), THAT is when they can claim to share the burden with their wives.

Let's be clear here - it's not the pair of hands gripping the wheel that gets the majority of the stress. It's the one receiving all the dates for all the different events and planning the year out to the last summer camp, who is the most burdened.

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Exactly. Managing a google calendar and registering for all those activities is almost a full time job in itself. Especially for middle schoolers, who need constant supervision. [/quote]

OP wife is working part-time.  He could also get a better job but chooses not to.  Reality is he doesn't take off when the kids are sick, doesn't do transporting during work hours and flex to make activities.  He probably doesn't do doctors appointments, dental appointments, eye appointments, do the shopping (clothing and food and other household), take off when house repairs are needed, etc.  He may do some cleaning and laundry but its probably not 1/2 and maybe a few times a month.  Cleaning the kitchen is very different from cleaning the house and laundry and house upkeep.

My husband says he cooks - maybe a few time a year if I do most of the prep.  He drives to get carry out.  He will load the dishes once or twice a month and say he cleaned the kitchen (still leaving a huge mess).  My husband will say he does lots of things, but then there is reality.  I do everything including taking care of his mom.  He doesn't even buy his own underwear.[/quote]

[b]Just another SAHM trying to justify her existence...[/quote][/b]

Don't be so quick to judge. I'm not PP but could be, I do all that , underwear included, and I WOHM. And I'm the primary breadwinner[/quote]

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