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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, are you going to tell us what your husbands relationship with this woman is now?  And by extension, your relationship with her?[/quote]

They coparent.  I've never met or spoken to her.

[quote=Anonymous]I may be able to get over the affair, but I'd NEVER get over the fact that my kid knew about his father's affair & love child for TWO years before I did.  It's one thing for him to lie & cheat, but to involve my innocent child & make him lie for 2 years is morally bankrupt & he just sounds so scuzzy to me.[/quote]

I don't like that either.

[quote=Anonymous]You may be able to hide this from friends, family, co workers & neighbors now, but once this kid hits the tweens & starts using social media & all of your kids are Facebook friends & Snapchat buddies & posting things like #ilovemybrotherand sister on each other's walls, then everyone will know.[/quote]

This is a strange thing to be concerned about.  My friends are aware. I can't imagine my coworkers or neighbors give a damn; I am not aware of their personal lives and I'm sure they don't care about mine. People are generally only concerned with their own lives. I don't conduct my life on social media.  You seem very concerned with appearances.

[quote=Anonymous]At least if you had a temporary separation you'd look like you actually had somewhat of a backbone & standard for yourself, but to find out about this one day & then just living life the same, no punishment for him & everything remains exactly the same, as if he hadn't been cheating for YEARS?
Uhhh, NO (and you can tell yourself whatever you want to make staying with him "ok", but this wasn't a long term affair, this was a family & he was living a double life).[/quote]

You don't know what happened or what we had so let's not theorize. It wasn't a family.

[quote=Anonymous]What's to stop him from doing this again?[/quote]

Nothing, just like any other unfaithful spouse, except the commitment not to, and the fear of losing everything.

[quote=Anonymous]I couldn't get through life with everyone always giving me that pathetic look of pity & judgement and giving my husband the glare of moral disgust on the daily.[/quote]

No one thinks of you long enough to give you any kind of look. All families have crap they deal with; most people around them are not aware of other people's crap, nor do they give two damns. [/quote]

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