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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have not read through all of the posts, but thought i should answer the original question "what kind of woman ..."
When i was very young - 21 or 22 - i had a relationship with a married man in his 30's. Our affair was sexually intense and highly emotional for both of us. Went on for over a year, closer to two years. We were quite obsessed with each other.

What kind of person was I? Slutty - yes. In need of attention - yes. Lack of impulse control? YES. Immoral? Well no, not exactly but just not able to control myself for some reason. Low self-esteem - yes. Needing to feel powerful - NO. Self-centered - well yes, but this is normal for a 21 year old i think?

I had never had a serious boyfriend or received so much attention from anyone before. This man kind of swooped in and knocked me off my feet. looking back, he was more like a predator, sort of like the big bad wolf. I was caught up and in serious denial about what i was doing. Eventually i started to realize that i was miserable being the "other woman" and could no longer tolerate being the "other woman." His wife had a baby in the middle of all of this. He told me that she knew about the affair so it was necessary for us to be more careful ... that must have been a turning point for me. I was a mess during that time.  After a short period of time of no contact between him and me i called the wife to apologize. I was truly ashamed of myself. She said "do you realize you almost destroyed our family?" The honest answer was no i had not realized that. I had only been thinking of myself. I will never forget that phone call.  She also said she hoped the same thing would not happen to me someday. This was more than 20 years ago so many details have been forgotten ...or blocked. I am not that person now. Now  I would never do anything to harm another person or destroy a family.  I truly am sorry for what i did all those years ago. [/quote]

I don't think as a young person, you can truly comprehend the impact of this. Some 21 year olds are very mature and some not.  I admire you for apologizing.  I don't think that happens very often.[/quote]

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