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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thanks for the responses. I read them all. I have an appointment with a therapist on Friday. Going to talk it through with him but leaning towards saying nothing and trying to move forward.

What would make me even more despicable would be to let it happen again. I am going to learn from this and as pp says, put extra effort in being a better wife and mother.

I made a very bad decision but I don't know if all the parties - DH, myself and DC would be better off if I ultimately told DH and he decided to end our marriage.

I do need to explore why I allowed this to happen. I did have a moment of clarity and thought to myself, get out now why you have the chance but I didn't and I think a lot of that decision had to do with drinking.

I firmly believe I don't have an alcolohol problem. I honestly can't remember the last time I was intoxicated. Probably before DC was born. I was in the moment, mixed different types of liquor and didnt eat dinner plus my time zone was way out of whack. That being said,  I take full responsibility for my actions and as I said, intend on working though this with a therapist but at this juncture I don't believe it is in anyone's best interest to tell.

For those who have asked about AP - I strongly believe he will not  say anything. I see him maybe twice a year, we have no interaction other than these meetings every 6 months. He lives 5000 miles away.

It just the guilt and shame that I worry will eat away at me. But I have brought that on myself and will not ask for sympathy.[/quote]

Please - cut yourself some slack.
You sound like a good person who had a moment of weakness and is now contrite and trying to the right thing,
My heart goes out to you and the thoughtful manner in which you are dealing with this.

As others have suggested, put this behind you and I don't think you should tell.

My one suggestion is that don't let this one episode make you think less of yourself lest it chip away at your humanity. 
It is easy to go from "I am horrible mother/wife" to "I am horrible already so what is one more bad thing".

All the best.

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