Reply to What type of women have emotional/physical affairs with married men?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "What type of women have emotional/physical affairs with married men?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm curious how people think about this situation.  Both affair partners are "married", but both marriages are dead.  Both live in separate rooms/floors of their respective houses, and don't ever sleep with or have sex with the spouses.  Years since either has had sex with their spouses.  No social time with their spouses.  Basically, they just deal with spouses on things that they have to (logistical stuff) and that's it.  The spouses of both are agreed on the situations as well - meaning the distance - but they're not aware of the EA.  No children under 20.  In both marriages, they are staying in the same house and only technically "married" for various significant reasons, but those reasons are temporary and eventually there will probably be divorces once that phase is over.

I know people will ask how you know for sure this is the case in the marriages, and not just something one is telling the other in order to have the affair.  Assume it is verified and true.  Just wondering what people think in this regard.  I used to be very black/white about affairs, and am still very strict about them, but can see some gray here.[/quote]

I think that life is short, and your viable sexual years are even shorter. Do you want to be at the end of your life looking back on an empty and lonely existence?  Or do you want to experience what it's like when someone loves you and wants you, is happy with you, can talk to you about things they can't with anyone else?  Sadly there are many legitimate reasons not to divorce. I don't think that means people should be trapped in misery. Yes, some people have affairs for caddish reasons. But some do it because they have deeply held, long-unmet needs.

In my experience people either cheat or divorce. The cheaters I've known did not want divorce. I wonder if their spouses would have preferred they had left instead of cheated?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics