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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am very much pro choice but I too would like to find ways to encourage more women to consider putting their babies up for adoption.

At this point, I think we need to 1) limit the time a birth mother can change her mind-maybe 3 days instead of 3 months and 2) just call a spade a spade and pay the birth mother and not pretend its just "expenses"-....  If 1000 white infants were available tomorrow for adoption, I know every single one would be adopted in a day or so.  Same for AA infants...but a lot of folks don't allow for interacial adoptions. The whole systems is excruciating and painful. [/quote]

I think people really overestimate how easy putting a baby up for adoption is.  "Oh, why doesn't she just put the baby up for adoption?"  Um, because giving up an actual baby you have just given birth to can be really, really hard.  You can say all you want that an embryo is a baby, but there is a difference between a potential baby and an actual baby.  And you still have to go through pregnancy and childbirth--not only are both potentially dangerous (or even fatal), they cause all kinds of practical difficulties.  Pregnancy can be exhausting, morning sickness can be truly debilitating, a woman might not be able to continue to perform her job while pregnant, she might not qualify for leave to recover from childbirth, etc.  So if you want to encourage women to put their babies up for adoption, you really need to support affordable, accessible prenatal care for all, legal protections for pregnant employees, post-birth paid leave, etc.

Not to mention, it still doesn't solve the problem of babies with serious health issues.  There are some adoptive parents who are willing to take this on, but many still want healthy white infants.

I don't see the pro-life group lining up to support prenatal care and financial support for women who choose to carry babies to term and keep them (that would be "welfare," and that's bad); maybe they'd be more supportive if the women were giving their babies up to "deserving" families.  [/quote]

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