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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Moving in with the lover won't help her cause much. I don't blame the kids for not really wanting to hang out with OP all that much.

Now if the husband takes her back and proceeds to treat her like complete dirt, OP can paint her husband as abusive/fucked in the head (or some polite, court-approved method of stating that.)

Asking OP to take it up the pooper won't cut it for abusive/fucked in the head territory, nor will asking OP to compose Penthouse Forum letters based on her real life experiences.

Taking OP up the pooper without her consent, NOW we're getting into abusive/fucked in the head (and worse) territory. [/quote]

wow. such hate for this woman.[/quote]

But think about her situation in the moment. Stuff on the front porch and nowhere else to go. Of course she's going to the OM. That makes her human, not bad. I'm not excusing her, just saying that none of us should re-construct her past from our own armchairs.

Also, some psych should correct me, but I thought it was pretty common for the cheated upon party to want / need to know sordid details, and that this is part of the recovery. As a man, I can understand H resentment for her only sharing parts of her body with the OM and not her him. I couldn't deal with knowing she did XYZ with him, but refused me. I don't think he's necessarily bring malicious, seems more like he's giving her a litmus test for re-entering his life. That's incredibly powerful stuff to give to OM and deny it to H.  To all our female colleagues out there, don't underestimate the intensity of this kind of communication.

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