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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So much misandry on this thread.[/quote]

Yeah right, and I am someone that can't stand when other women - and some men - put men down. Posters are easily telling OP how much of a horrible whore she is and never deserves to see her kids.....how many times in threads where OP is a woman talking about her cheating husband do posters say he should never see the kids? Not as much as in this thread.[/quote]

Above poster is correct. What stands out about this thread was the malicious, targeted way posters are addressing OP, specifically around her gender and sexuality. Her behavior makes her a cheater. A bad spouse and possibly a bad parent. Same nouns one can use for a cheating DH. Posters repeatedly referring to OP as a "whore" and suggesting she lose custody of her kids are coming from an entirely different place. And it's not a good one.[/quote]

She lost custody because she can't afford to support her kids not because she is a whore. It's because she expects her ex-h to support her even though she has an Ivy League education. She makes $20k a year and refuses to get a real job.[/quote]
Why should it come down to money? Suppose it was her breadwinner husband who cheated and left.  In that case, she wouldn't have been able to support her kids, either. Do you think the cheating husband should have had custody just because he's the one with the paycheck?

Mind you, I am not saying that she should have custody, we simply don't know enough to make that call.  I am saying that it should not come down to who can afford what.[/quote]

Children should have a stable home. In this situation the H can provide the children the same home that they have lived in since birth and provide a stable environment. She can not. I don't care if it were reversed. Women who decide to SAH basically given up control of their own life and in this situation custody of their children out of a leap of faith. It is crazy to me. It was her educated decision.

Yes. It does come down to who can afford what.

He can afford a house, the school they have friends in and everything else. She can offer an apartment, who knows where.

Sorry, but consequences suck but she did this to herself.[/quote]

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