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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm still trying to figure out why a gay guy would be trying to marry women and sleep with them.  It would just complicate his gay life.  Will someone please explain to me why a truly gay man would seek out women to marry and have sex with.  Nobody has yet to explain that to me. [/quote]

At the risk of sounding redundant, just because a man has had an isolated involvement or two with another guy does not make him gay. He may have done so out of a myriad of reasons: being intoxicated, wanting to experiment, being genuinely attracted to a guy, going through a dry period with women, etc. If you are of the mindset that any same sex involvement is indicative of being permanently gay, then you will not neither understand or accept what I am saying.

It is rare for a guy who is gay to get married especially in today's environment where the stigma to being gay is less of a factor. It happens but it is a rarity. [/quote]

You're wrong. There's still a lot of family and societal pressure on guys, especially in certain professions, to be straight, married, with 2.1 children. Many of them do want  to fit in and live the American dream family.

See:

Straight Spouse Network - for current and former straight spouses and partners of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people
www.ssnetwk.org/

AND

The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families http://www.amazon.com/Other-Side-Closet-Coming-Out-Straight/dp/0471021520
An invaluable book incorporating the author's seven years of research and interviews with hundreds of spouses with insights derived from her own teaching and counseling work. Contains stories and tactics for straight spouses and their families to constructively cope with a mate or family member who declares his/her homosexuality. Analyzes six key issues a straight spouse faces when a partner `comes out' including damaged sexuality, threatened marital relationships, conflicting spouse/parent roles, devalued self-concept, destroyed integrity and shattered belief systems.[/quote]

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