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Reply to "My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!"
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[quote=Anonymous]If you can afford it I would say buy it, but the worthless comment is really problematic for both of you. I’m guessing she feels like you see her as not worth it (aka “worthless”), and is therefore projecting what she makes it mean if you don’t buy it onto you. Hereby calling you worthless. If I were you I would say “hey, I’m going to buy this bag because I see how much you love it and I really want you to have the things you want when we can afford it. More importantly I want you to know that you are worth so much to me, and it really hurts when you tell me I am worthless if I don’t buy you something. I believe maybe I make you feel like I don’t value your worth though, and I want you to know I do, but it’s not this bag that proves it, it’s something that holds true all the time regardless of our circumstances. Let’s not tie our worth to each other to things. Let’s connect in ways and learn to speak to each other in ways that make us feel valued and seen.”[/quote]
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