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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would you be thinking about marrying and having kids with him if you were 6-10 years younger?

It’s okay if the answer is no and you do it anyway.  But be honest with yourself about it, because he isn’t going to change. [/quote]

OP here. This is a good question. I think I’d still consider it. We have a strong emotional connection and I find that hard to come by.

To add more info. He’s a great cook, frugal shopper, and does take out the trash (he takes out my trash without me asking and we don’t live together). I think he can be depended upon to shuttle kids around and get them to their appointments.

When I say he’s not ambitious I mean in his career. He has no plan for achieving career goals, and doesn’t seem to be passionate about his career.

I wouldn’t want him to be a SAHD. [b]I’m envisioning[/b] him continuing to work but picking the slack up with kids, because I will have to be in overdrive to earn more.[/quote]

What's his vision?

You are not ready to get married, much less have kids, unless you have this talk with him. Marrying someone "envisioning" how things will go without discussing that vision with them and ensuring they are on the same page is a recipe for disaster. [/quote][/quote]

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