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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Didn't read the entire thread. Is it possible that OP is doing a lot of assuming here? Or adding emotion where there is none?

For the daughter, [b]this should have been discussed before marriage.[/b][/quote]

This has been posted fifty times. How was this supposed to be discussed before marriage? Not in some advice column, in real life. "Hey babe, I know you're debt free, but just so we're on the same page, once we get married, make sure you keep rising the corporate ladder because I'm going to need you to pay down my $400,000 (or whatever sum it is) loans I racked up before we met." How romantic. :roll:[/quote]

Yes, healthy marriages are the result of people discussing key issues BEFORE marriage and continuing into the marriage.  Discussing finances, kids, work life balance, dealing with IL/family are all key parts.  Finances are one of THE MAJOR reasons people divorce.

I got married straight out of grad school.  We had discussed all of these things prior.  We both were on same page to work hard/live frugal life to pay off our student loans (I Had $15K, spouse had $80K) and then continue for another year to save downpayment for a house.  We knew that I might want to be a SAHP and planned financially for that.  
That is what people who want a healthy marriage do.  You don't get married and have kids then discuss for first time if you can SAHP.  Well you don't do that if you want a successful marriage.

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This. This is exactly what should have happened. I remember having this conversation bc if i had found out he had a ton of credit card debt it would have been a deal breaker. Student debt i could have worked with. I was the one with the student loan, but it wasn't that much.[/quote]

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