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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This post is fascinating. As someone who has pulled strings for my own kids and for former colleagues and friends, and as someone who chose to NOT pull a string bc I did not want to vouch for the applicant, or I doubted the kid’s abilities, and I just didn’t want to risk my reputation, there are a million ways that OP’s DH can handle this. And, he likely knows all the moves:

Send in the resume with a strong, take a look, he’s great!
Send in the resume with a lukewarm noncommittal just “take a look and if you can, maybe have one conversation” message to the recruiter. 
Tell the kid that the recruitment cycle for this May’s grads ended in the fall when the previous summer interns received offers so he is too late, but will help with the resume. (And every kid gunning for IB knows this btw, they understand the recruiting cycle is 12 to 18 months Prior To Start date - so it further shows that Nephew is indeed a nitwit)

I believe there is nothing wrong with nepotism. It’s how the world works. [b]But for those deriding the OP for not being more supportive because he is her Nephew[/b], no way, that’s not how it works. I have a dozen nieces and nephews. I might pull some help for one or two of them. The others are discombobulated disasters (many of you have similar relations in your family!) and I’d give them option 3 above.[/quote]

People are telling OP to get out of the way and let her husband - who as you correctly noted knows all the millions of ways to help, soft-peddle, or not help an applicant based on his read of their resume and abilities - handle this.  OP is standing in between the person who knows how to handle this and her family.  Maybe you're right and a kid graduating from Duke is a "discombobulated disaster" who would shred OP's DH's reputation if they were ever associated with each other, but I doubt it.  And if he is, OP's DH, not OP, can go directly to option 3.  I notice you don't have OP's stance - "you're too poor for my husband to see your CV" as an option 4 on your list.[/quote]

No I would not dismiss any kid based on background or ‘being poor’. Quite the opposite in fact. A kid who excels at Duke from MC or underprivileged background is worth a look! If I read correctly up thread though, Nephew has a 2.9? That may not be disastrous. But it’s not a pulled together successful college career either, that’s more like sleepwalking to commencement.

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I think the 2.9 was the son of some other poster. The athlete.

If nephew did have a 2.9 then OP should have led with that instead of middle class. [/quote]

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