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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been thinking about this topic lately.  Honestly, public shaming for having oral herpes (cold sores) has been the ongoing trauma in my life.  I have been kicked out of friend groups, scolded by family members at holidays, rejected by people I cared about, shunned at jobs, lost out on opportunities and even shunned by my former faith community.

I have had recurring cold sores most of my life and was not able to take medication due to kidney issues.  Recently the frequency and severity has subsided and reflecting back I now see how much this issue has impacted my life.  For so long I stuffed away the hurt of each event and I didn't make the connection.[/quote].

A girl I went to high school with experienced this and people probably don’t understand how horrible people are about it. She was attractive and had a well to do family but was treated like a leper whether she had the sores or not. [/quote]

[b]I believe a herpes vaccine is on the horizon.  But even after a vaccine, I doubt I will ever feel comfortable around the people who said and did unkind things to me because of oral herpes.  The virus gave people justification to shame me and they seized every opportunity with delight. [/b][/quote]

That is horrible. Almost everybody has it. My 3 month old nephew had a huge outbreak. [/quote]

This. Even many people who never get cold sores have it. My husband has it but has never gotten a cold sore in his life. Who knows why.

I've gotten cold sores since I was a child and they are basically just a sign of high stress for me. So being treated badly for having one is usually just adding insult to injury because I'm likely already going through something very hard. Like I'll get one when a family member dies, and then I have to deal with being treated like a leper by parents at my kids school if they see me with it. Just freaking fantastic.[/quote]

Agreed.  It's so common that it makes me question the validity of the person's story about being treated poorly.  [/quote]

What a sh@tty comment. I’m the person who knew someone in high school who was completely rejected because of them. She didn’t get just one small sore. Kids avoided her all the time out of ignorance. You have no clue how bad they can be and kids are ignorant. [/quote]

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