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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you need to go to bed by 8pm. Your husband takes the 10pm feed, and you handle the middle of the night ones.

Others have said this is a short time and they are right, but there is a LOT of rigidity in both of your expectations for how things will go, and some things have to give.

One of those things is that your husband will go to sleep later than he wants. You'll go to sleep earlier than you want. He will likely work out less frequently for a while. Eventually it will all settle out, but these compromises are key to sustaining a healthy relationship with an infant.[/quote]

+1 to all of this.

And OP, I'm going to give an opinion that you are not going to like, but here it is - start learning to trust your gut. You've got a pediatrician micro-managing you and a lactation consultant micro-managing you and you are trying to do everything they say and also live up to your husband's expectations that you breastfeed.

So, #1 - if it's really that important to your husband that you breastfeed he needs to step up and do a late night or early morning feed so you can rest.

#2 - grill your pediatrician on the weight gain. You can feed an otherwise healthy newborn on demand. Was your baby low birth weight? Lose a lot of weight in the hospital? If he's not gaining as quickly as your ped would like what is the ped basing that on? Because something is not adding up if you have sufficient supply, are pumping, and supplementing.

#3 - give yourself and your husband a break as much as you can. The newborn phase is HARD.[/quote]

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