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[quote=Anonymous]The premise of your post is all based on feelings.

Fact - your wife is having regular sex with you.
Feeling - she acts like it is a chore.
Fact - you are using your subjective perception of your wife's enthusiasm to justify cheating on her.

This is a very subjective (and also, symbiotic) thing. Remember that the grass is greenest where you water it. You've gotten plenty of good advice on how to honor and engage your wife in ways that will increase good feelings and perpetuate positive cycles, so I won't repeat those.

I don't know if your wife can enjoy sex with you more or not. But I do know that complaining that she's not enthusiastic enough has a 0.87% chance of working. Cheating on her has a negative 100% chance of working. What might work is focusing on her pleasure, even if that means something other than an orgasm for you. Not because you want something in return, but because you want to be the kind of partner who is curious about what she enjoys and eager to provide it for her. This just might rub off on her and come back around your way.

Just to review, that article was complete rubbish unless you were looking for "stupid reasons guys convince themselves their cheating makes sense." You're not in a sexless marriage, mate. You have just made yourself judge and jury on whether she's enthusiastic enough and then sentenced her to betrayal.

I don't think you'll find too many women on here who find what you're describing all that sexy. Unfortunately for your karma, there are plenty of women with Daddy issues and poor self-esteem to fall into bed with you when your wife gets another bad report card. But see, their enthusiasm for you wouldn't last 20 years of being married to you either. Thinking if you cosplay a porn star successfully enough you might win the grand prize of the married cheater is what drives them. If I can steal this guy away from his wife, then I MUST be worth something, right? [/quote]

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