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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, why don't you actually TALK to your sister about this. Maybe she can work something out with your parents or her in laws to keep the kids while she and her husband come. Or maybe even she comes on her own for a few days while kids stay with her husband.[/quote]

I will, but obviously this vacation is not tomorrow or next week, given that I'm driving and it's August (e.g. we obviously aren't going to South America!).  So, at some point between now and Christmas, when I know more details, I'll say to her "Hey just so you know, we're going to . . . "

She isn't going to leave a 5 month old breastfed child for multiple nights.  If this was her first child, or her second, I might not know that, but it's her fourth.  I have seen enough of her parenting to have a vague idea of the kinds of choices she would make, and I know that she would not do that unless it was something more important than a vacation.   Which is fair enough, especially because I wouldn't have either when my kids were 5 months old.[b] So, extending an invitation that's contingent on her leaving the baby behind is the same as not inviting her, or possibly more hurtful.  [/B]
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The bolded is a bit silly and not true.

I don't get all this drama. Just text her and say something like "Larla, I wanted to let you know I'm planning a ski trip with the kids. Sissy is interested in bringing her kids. Little Sissy might also be interested, I haven't checked. Of course you are welcome, but I assume you probably won't want to join because of baby Larlo. Hope you are all well."[/quote]

I'm really confused why you think I should send a text that says "Of course you are welcome" when I would rather cancel the trip than go with her if she brings the kids.

People are saying "well just tell her not to bring the kids". So, I asked how that would also not be hurtful. Obviously, if I leave that part out of the text then it stops being hurtful.

I won't do this by text since this is someone I see all the time.  I'm not that b*tchy.[/quote]

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