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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you decide to move forward with only inviting two of your three sisters, I would be absolutely sure that the sisters you are inviting know in advance that that is the case, and that they are in agreement, or at least comfortable with the situation. Personally, in my family, I would not touch that vacation with a 10 foot (ski!) pole, and would feel really put in the middle of A situation that’s both uncomfortable and possibly with relationship repercussions.

You also mentioned that your sister with the four children has kids up to the age of 10.  how old are her oldest kids, and can they ski, or could they be in ski school?  if so, you could offer to bring her older kids with you and she could stay home with the younger ones (of course with her paying for her kids skiing and such).  That might feel much less exclusionary. Or, you could let her know and offer that option, or alternatively that they, with their larger nuclear family, I stay in another condo so as not to need to disrupt the wider groups schedules.

As an aside, if you’re older sisters children are older than yours, you might want to consider that they may feel the same way about your kids as your kids may feel about the younger four kids of your other sister.  at least in my experience, older cousins have the benefits of being older, thought of as wiser and leaders, but there’s also some responsibility that comes with that and younger kids often want to spend time with their older cousins, and it can get in the way a bit at times.  I don’t know your family ages and dynamic, but maybe think of it as your kids’ turn to be the big kid cousins.

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My oldest sister is the one who initiated this, so I know she's OK with it.  If her kids aren't OK with it, then they don't have to hang with my kids.  Knowing my oldest sister, she asked her kids before she reached out to us.  Obviously, we wouldn't invite our baby sister without telling her who is coming on the trip.

My kids are the "big cousins" a lot. [/quote]

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