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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not even sure if I like any labels. Aren't we are all somewhere on the spectrum? In any case, labels are helpful for some, but they aren't for everyone, and I think we need to be more flexible with them changing. I'm learning so much talking to my son. He came out as bisexual to me, and he doesn't like labels, so I've been having a lot of talks at home lately about it. Being flexible is important all the way around.[/quote]

No, thanks, we aren’t [/quote]

No we really are somewhere in the gender spectrum.

You probably aren’t as masculine or feminine as others your same gender are. You have seen, im sure, very manly men and very feminine women. They are on the extremes of the spectrum. Everyone else is between those extremes, and people who are non-binary are somewhere in the middle. [/quote]
Being a feminine man or a masculine woman doesn’t change the reality that you are, in fact, a man or a woman.  [/quote]

There's a difference between biological sex and gender.  Non-binary people are focused mostly on the idea of gender, which is a societal construct that exists on a continuum and arises out of lived reality (Google "constitutive communication"...it's been around for well over two decades since I wrote a doctoral dissertation based on it that long ago and it wasn't new then).  Does my kid know that they're a woman biologically?  Sure.  [b]They just choose not to focus on that because what sex organs they have has nothing to do with the person they are, and they'd prefer that people react to them in a reality based on behavior and personality (which they have control over), not biology (which they don't).[/b][/quote]

I thank you for this explanation. The problem is that all of society is now expected to bend over backwards not to assume the gender of a person. I am taking classes in a medical field and the professors now refer to "people with female genitalia" rather than to women. The phrase "assigned female at birth" is just ridiculous. You get "assigned" the name Larla at birth, not your gender. The sex/gender pronouncement doesn't even happen at birth. If the mom has prenatal testing done, she can find out the chromosomes of her fetus very early on. The chromosomes don't lie and the assignment of gender has nothing to do with parturition (coming out of the birth canal). So, someone really needs to come up with a better term than "assigned at birth." It's not accurate. Just say that your chromosomes are female (or male, or an aberration).[/quote]

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