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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.[/quote]

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone. [/quote]

No. Not really. Some people do fail at parenting. An angry teen was an angry tween, child, toddler....it is years of being unheard and disregarded that makes them lash out.

Good Communication is the key.[/quote]

This is not true at all. I was a pleasant child, an angry teen, and I’m a very chill adult.  My eldest was highly anxious and never stopped moving as a child m, was depressed as a teen and and is now very relaxed and happy.  People change and evolve and often times it’s an “inside job” having nothing to do with parents, teachers, etc.[/quote]

Actually it has a lot to do with parents and teachers.  As an angry teen, why were you angry and what could have helped make the situation better?  Same with your child?  Its easy to dismiss things, its harder to figure out the problem and if you are able fix it.

I can see a lot of things my parents could have and should have done different.  Now that I am older I can see how selfish they were, other things like their careers were more important and we are very aware for ours and make sure that our family is functioning well in terms of meeting their needs and being happy and if things aren't working even for one of us, we all make an effort to change as a family.  My spouse was having health issues, we all as a family agreed to change our diet, exercise with the spouse, etc.  Child struggling in school.  Both parents stepped in and supported till they could take over DL but we are still there to support.  One parent having other health issues, others step in for support.  Its a team effort, not individual.  You say its no big deal, but it was when you were going through it and a little bit of support could have made a huge difference.  [/quote]

DP.

You cannot fix everything for your teen. Stop projecting your issues with your childhood unto other people and their parents.

My parents were great. However, as a teenager I was confused at the world because it has as much wickedness/cruelty as it has kindness/love. I did not understand how it worked. Guess what? Nobody, not even the Pope can figure this out. My parents supported me and empathized. My parents guided me towards little ways I could make a difference, but I needed to accept that there were a lot of things that I could not change. I needed to be at peace with that.

No amount of parental/teacher love and support could have made up for the time I needed to figure things out/make peace with the world without completely resigning to it. Being a twen/teen is uniquely rough because you begin to really see the world with all its promises and failures, and yet you don't have the full range of emotions/intellect to discern when to challenge, resign, and embrace.

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