Anonymous
Post 10/16/2020 15:03     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:One day I was thinking “And this is why 18th century parents sent their teens off to apprentice with other people.” Throughout human history, no one has really wanted to spend this much time with their teenagers. Its unnatrual.


Lol
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2020 15:01     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
- It's a natural progression that kids are with parents less as they age- they need to get out and be individuals as they turn into adults and as parents we need them to ween away a bit.

I'm an empty nester now and love having my kids home, they were here for 6 mos. due to pandemic and it was great, but I am now enjoying the space now that they went back to their own places.

No shaming on parents of teens/tweens who are tired of being together all the time- it's not natural.
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2020 14:56     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.


F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.


No. Not really. Some people do fail at parenting. An angry teen was an angry tween, child, toddler....it is years of being unheard and disregarded that makes them lash out.

Good Communication is the key.


This is not true at all. I was a pleasant child, an angry teen, and I’m a very chill adult. My eldest was highly anxious and never stopped moving as a child m, was depressed as a teen and and is now very relaxed and happy. People change and evolve and often times it’s an “inside job” having nothing to do with parents, teachers, etc.


Actually it has a lot to do with parents and teachers. As an angry teen, why were you angry and what could have helped make the situation better? Same with your child? Its easy to dismiss things, its harder to figure out the problem and if you are able fix it.

I can see a lot of things my parents could have and should have done different. Now that I am older I can see how selfish they were, other things like their careers were more important and we are very aware for ours and make sure that our family is functioning well in terms of meeting their needs and being happy and if things aren't working even for one of us, we all make an effort to change as a family. My spouse was having health issues, we all as a family agreed to change our diet, exercise with the spouse, etc. Child struggling in school. Both parents stepped in and supported till they could take over DL but we are still there to support. One parent having other health issues, others step in for support. Its a team effort, not individual. You say its no big deal, but it was when you were going through it and a little bit of support could have made a huge difference.


DP.

You cannot fix everything for your teen. Stop projecting your issues with your childhood unto other people and their parents.

My parents were great. However, as a teenager I was confused at the world because it has as much wickedness/cruelty as it has kindness/love. I did not understand how it worked. Guess what? Nobody, not even the Pope can figure this out. My parents supported me and empathized. My parents guided me towards little ways I could make a difference, but I needed to accept that there were a lot of things that I could not change. I needed to be at peace with that.

No amount of parental/teacher love and support could have made up for the time I needed to figure things out/make peace with the world without completely resigning to it. Being a twen/teen is uniquely rough because you begin to really see the world with all its promises and failures, and yet you don't have the full range of emotions/intellect to discern when to challenge, resign, and embrace.


Anonymous
Post 10/16/2020 14:18     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:Be a better wife? You bitches are ridiculous. No way your kids are happy when you come here and rip people apart. I don’t buy your Brady Bunch nonsense for a second.


+1000000000
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2020 11:09     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:Feed your kids and they will be more pleasant. Awful parents with non existent cooking skills are making teens long for the school lunch. Seriously, why are you all having kids if everything about them is hateful to you? I wish for your kind some good ol infertility.

Let me guess, you're 40 pounds overweight. You seem to be strangely obsessed with food.
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2020 11:06     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:My teen put it best - if people don't have real problems they make up some fake problems.

I think OP's kids just might be HANGRY.

Yes, some families just cook lousy meals and the poor children who were used to better food at the school cafeteria and take outs and now stuck with adults without adulting skills and eating tasteless slop at home.


This is some kind of a next-level irony, right?
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2020 16:32     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Feed your kids and they will be more pleasant. Awful parents with non existent cooking skills are making teens long for the school lunch. Seriously, why are you all having kids if everything about them is hateful to you? I wish for your kind some good ol infertility.


Another good parent emanating happiness and contentment!


Certainly not happy and content with seeing abusive parents like op and many who have posted here. Trained to spot and report negligence and abuse - physical, emotional and sexual - of children and students. I am sorry that these children do not have the safety of school to escape from their home environments due to COVID.



So you honestly think the OP is abusive and negligent and the best advice you could come up with was learn how to cook? This thread is hilarious.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2020 15:49     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.


F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.


No. Not really. Some people do fail at parenting. An angry teen was an angry tween, child, toddler....it is years of being unheard and disregarded that makes them lash out.

Good Communication is the key.


This is not true at all. I was a pleasant child, an angry teen, and I’m a very chill adult. My eldest was highly anxious and never stopped moving as a child m, was depressed as a teen and and is now very relaxed and happy. People change and evolve and often times it’s an “inside job” having nothing to do with parents, teachers, etc.


Actually it has a lot to do with parents and teachers. As an angry teen, why were you angry and what could have helped make the situation better? Same with your child? Its easy to dismiss things, its harder to figure out the problem and if you are able fix it.

I can see a lot of things my parents could have and should have done different. Now that I am older I can see how selfish they were, other things like their careers were more important and we are very aware for ours and make sure that our family is functioning well in terms of meeting their needs and being happy and if things aren't working even for one of us, we all make an effort to change as a family. My spouse was having health issues, we all as a family agreed to change our diet, exercise with the spouse, etc. Child struggling in school. Both parents stepped in and supported till they could take over DL but we are still there to support. One parent having other health issues, others step in for support. Its a team effort, not individual. You say its no big deal, but it was when you were going through it and a little bit of support could have made a huge difference.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2020 15:45     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Feed your kids and they will be more pleasant. Awful parents with non existent cooking skills are making teens long for the school lunch. Seriously, why are you all having kids if everything about them is hateful to you? I wish for your kind some good ol infertility.


Another good parent emanating happiness and contentment!


Certainly not happy and content with seeing abusive parents like op and many who have posted here. Trained to spot and report negligence and abuse - physical, emotional and sexual - of children and students. I am sorry that these children do not have the safety of school to escape from their home environments due to COVID.



School staff get a brief 30 minute training at best. Its nothing equal to the training others of us have which is why inappropriate reports are made. Excepting schools to take care of everything is now not the new reality. As parents you need to step up.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2020 15:34     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They need to go back to school. I’m tired of seeing them. I’m tired of having to debate things, I’m tired of text messages, I’m tired of attitudes, I’m tired of stomping up stairs, I’m just tired.

And I want my head back after it was bit off for asking a simple question.

I’m tired of feeling guilty for being sick of them.



Maybe let them go to a MAGA rally without a mask?


Most teenagers in NOVA don’t wear masks. They might be wearing masks around you (parent being present), but I’ve seen them out and about and there is no mask. As soon as they see one of the parents, they put the masks on. No need to go to MAGA rally to get COVID.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2020 15:28     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:They need to go back to school. I’m tired of seeing them. I’m tired of having to debate things, I’m tired of text messages, I’m tired of attitudes, I’m tired of stomping up stairs, I’m just tired.

And I want my head back after it was bit off for asking a simple question.

I’m tired of feeling guilty for being sick of them.



Maybe let them go to a MAGA rally without a mask?
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2020 15:20     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Feed your kids and they will be more pleasant. Awful parents with non existent cooking skills are making teens long for the school lunch. Seriously, why are you all having kids if everything about them is hateful to you? I wish for your kind some good ol infertility.


Another good parent emanating happiness and contentment!


Certainly not happy and content with seeing abusive parents like op and many who have posted here. Trained to spot and report negligence and abuse - physical, emotional and sexual - of children and students. I am sorry that these children do not have the safety of school to escape from their home environments due to COVID.

Anonymous
Post 10/15/2020 15:17     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So now we are hating on stepkids who are teens. 🤓🤓


No, we are agreeing that teens are difficult, and with OP - can't wait 'til they leave the house.


But being gleeful that step kids will fail? OMG. What despicable women!! Not fit to be called mothers...bio, adopted or step.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2020 14:50     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:So now we are hating on stepkids who are teens. 🤓🤓


No, we are agreeing that teens are difficult, and with OP - can't wait 'til they leave the house.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2020 14:27     Subject: I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers
Anonymous wrote:Feed your kids and they will be more pleasant. Awful parents with non existent cooking skills are making teens long for the school lunch. Seriously, why are you all having kids if everything about them is hateful to you? I wish for your kind some good ol infertility.


Another good parent emanating happiness and contentment!