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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think parenting ebs and flows.

-- early years are tough with lack of sleep and kids needing you 24/7
-- mid/later ES years much easier, but they aren't mostly self sufficient yet
-- tween/teen -- not there yet, but I know it can be hell sometimes
-- college - glad they are out, but can be bittersweet
-- I think once they are settled and have jobs, being a parent is so much easier since  you're largely done, but you still get the benefit of being a parent.

Then there are your golden years.  I know that for my parents, it was super hard. There were four of us, and we were low income. Lots of stress and fighting in the house growing up.  But, now that all of us are adults, financially doing fairly well (most of us), my parents enjoy the visits and having family around.  I think it would be incredibly lonely as you get older to not have children. Of course, there is no such thing as a sure bet, but for most of us, we have a decent enough relationship with our parents to see them once in a while.  And I hope for the same when we are older.

I had a neighbor who was a widower for years and who's child died when she was a teen. No other family around. I felt so sorry for him.[/quote]

Whatever...you do know you sound nasty right? I feel sorry for you that you needed to have children to fulfill your emotional please-visit-me-in-my-old-age needs. It's selfish to expect your grown children to travel to see you when they have their own obligations ?[/quote]

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