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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a wohm. I admit that it’s a constant struggle between wanting to spend time with kids but also working. I want both! I spent so many years in school and am excited about my career. I also love my kids! I look for flexible jobs that will allow me to be home early to pick them up from preschool. 
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I sometimes feel guilty when sahms say, “i want to be there for my kids,” “family first,” “i could never send them to daycare/nanny,” “can’t trust anyone,” etc.[/b]

At work, I feel bad for having to draw the line and say I can’t do certain things bc of my kids.

It would be amazing if the sahms and wohms, non parents - EVERYONE- understood that raising good kids is a benefit to society. If that means wohms who have more flexible schedules offer other wohms to carpool more or sahms offer to help the wahms bc they have more time, that would be great! Employers understanding that parents (not just moms) need flexibility is amaing. We need everyone to help each other and not just focus on our nuclear family. If we did this, society would be so mich better off[/quote]

I don't.  Seriously, I don't care what you do, but the minute a woman says something suggesting that women who work don't love their kids as much, I write them off as a piece of shit.  Seriously.  I don't care what you do, but insinuating that other mothers don't love their kids makes you a garbage person.  Period.  It's worse, IMO, than thinking that women who stay at home are lazy or whatever.

Do whatever you want--work, don't--but keep your sanctimonious self-justification to yourself.  [/quote]
Yep. [/quote]

Your reaction is an eye-opener. If someone suggested that I am not a good mom, I would just laugh.  Your reaction suggests that you are well aware that you fall short in giving your time to  your child.  That's why even a perceived suggestion makes you mad.

And who are you to decide that calling a SAHM as lazy is less egregious?  I think a woman who leaves her high paying job to put in the effort to raise her child herself is far better than one who pays someone else a low salary to look after her child.  It shows what you value. You are able to put a low dollar amount to the effort of spending the time with your own child. Unless your salary is being earned so that you can put a roof over your head and feed your family, you have no moral high ground to stand on.

As a WOHM, how are you helping other WOHMs? How are you fighting for better conditions for all parents at your workplace? Oh, you are doing nothing? I thought so. 
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