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Let Mary know when you're moving in and give advance notice of the changes that will be made. Which room are you going to live in; where should Mary put her stuff that's now in the main areas of the home? You are going to be clearing stuff out for a good long while. During that time, you can offer Mary things that may be of sentimental value that you'd be donating anyway. Are any of the utilities in her name? What was her contribution to the household?

I was waaaaay too generous when I inherited everything. And that's something I'm going to have to deal with for the rest of my life. The Will is the Will. Follow it. Depending on how you and Mary get along, there are any number of ways you can work out a functional relationship. If she took care of the house before, let her do that now. If she contributed financially, by all means let that continue. If she did none of these things and is toxic with grief and a sense of betrayal, well, then that doesn't sound like the basis of a positive relationship and she will have to be given notice to vacate.

She may believe she did what she did to receive $$$ in the end, but in fact was only earning her keep while the homeowner was alive. You are not responsible for her expectations. If I basically inherited a 50 year old woman and a house, I'd certainly try to make it work. But, since we don't actually inherit people, we're not responsible for their lives as they change with the death of your loved one.

[b]Operate with kindness, but don't you dare cut a check for anything more than a deposit for a new apartment, or a plane ticket so she may live with another family member. You'll feel like a goddam fool late (BTDT).[/b]

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+1.  Agree with this poster.  I also think a PP may have nailed it that Roy is probably worried that Mary will move in with him and never leave.  I'm still smh and the people suggesting OP sell the house and split it with Mary and Roy (not her siblings by the way).  I think if OP is willing to give away 50-100K she would be better served helping her own parents that are themselves helping everyone under the sun or perhaps donating to an organization that has maybe made a difference in her life.  Or maybe this inheritance gives OP a little more breathing room in terms of careers like if she wanted to do Americorp, be a teacher, work as an intern for little/no pay but great experience etc.  [/quote]

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