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[quote=Anonymous]I am a stepmom and a mom. It has been doable, but not always easy. One of the harder things for both me and DH is the fact that our two children together are likely to have a happier childhood than my stepchild, who has grown up bouncing between houses and did not have a sibling during critical years. I sometimes feel guilty-but there's nothing that would have significantly changed the situation. If DH and I hadn't gotten married and had kids, my stepchild would still have had a lonely childhood--I met DH years after the divorce, had nothing to do with it. But I do wonder if its harder to see the younger siblings with all the accoutrements of a stable nuclear family, which was denied to stepchild. and I think DH feels tremendously guilty at times, like his desire to achieve happiness, which for him meant more kids and getting remarried, only exacerbates his first child's isolation. In fact, he has admitted that if he had understood the impact of divorce on his child, he probably wouldn't have done it.  But this is particular to our family and every famiily handles the split up differently.

I anticipated a lot of things--parenting issues, ongoing relationship with ex, dividing resources, etc, but the complex emotions around adding more children to a family and how it will all mesh, or not, are hard to anticipate. [/quote]

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