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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can only imagine how exhausting it must be to be your child. Enjoy their rebellion. I'm not saying that to be snarky either, just a view from the outside looking in.[/quote]

THIS + 1,000,000

I wonder what that PP is rebelling against herself.  Because I'll bet dollars-to-donuts that her daughter will rebel and do a complete 180 as soon as she gets the chance.  Used, non-name brand clothes- that is NOT going to make middle school and high school any easier at all.  Seriously.  You're welcome to make whatever choices you want for your family, obviously we all have different ways of raising our kids, there's no single instruction manual.

Let me put it this way- YOU are a social outlier.  This can't be a revelation for you, you probably enjoy being smarter and different than all of us sheep who blindly follow social norms.  But you are making YOUR DAUGHTER a social outlier as well.  [b]And goddamn, that's a rough way to grow up.[/b]  [/quote]

Up to this point, both my son and my daughter are happy, well-adjusted children. We avoid peer-orientation (to use a fundie expression, tho we're not extremely religious and we're not Christians), as much as possible. If a mean kid who teases and bullies shows up in their social circle, we take action and the little teaser/bully is weeded out or learns to leave our children alone, and we take great care to build up our children, to let them know that the people doing the teasing are wrong, not them.[/quote]

Are you planning on sending your child to a public middle and high school?  Your ability to control and monitor their social circle will end at some point.  The fact that you are referencing "little teasers" gives me some insight.  You appear to think of them as little kids, mine are 15 and 17.  Its not about teasing and bullying, per se.  Peer interactions between older kids is much more complicated.  Not sure how you're going to "weed out" a majority of a high school class.  IMO- your approach will encourage your kids to isolate themselves from a majority of their peers.

I'm curious how you will handle them getting a job, making a good first impression, and fitting in society as a whole.

It just seems like you're making everything a battle.  Did your parents share a similar mindset, fighting against societal norms, or have you adopted a mindset and lifestyle that is contrary to how they raised you?  I'm genuinely interested. [/quote]

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