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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I also just want to say that although unlike you I will never again go to sleep at night without wondering about my children, and I'll never stop living with the fear that bad things will one day happen to them and I can't stop them, my children are so much more than the things I will never have because of them. They made me the person I was supposed to be. Having kids deepens your compassion because suddenly in every human you see the possibility of that being your child. You know they too had a mother. You look at your child doing something and it blows you away and you realize wow, if I feel this about MY kid, my mom felt that way about ME. Their love is unconditional which makes you work that much harder to earn it, so they can be proud to say of you "That's MY MOM!" I would not be half the woman I am today if I had never had my kids. I can't imagine trading that in for brunch and some extra sleep. [/quote]

+1,000,000. I get not wanting kids because you are devoted to your art, or are a war zone journalist, or just recognize that you would be a bad parent. I have to say I am always mystified that people will give up the transcendent experience of having a child over sleeping in, or spontaneous trips to Vegas. But its your life OP - you can decide not to have kids because your horoscope tells you not to - no one else's opinion really matters. But just go in fully accepting that this is a decision that you have a very limited window to undo, unlike jobs, choice of husband, or pretty much anything else.  If you want a real perspective, don't watch someone else's kids - go talk to women in their 50s, 60s, 70s and 80s who are childless. Ask them what their lives have been like. Ask them what they do now.  You may talk to them and think "This is how I want to live, and who I want to be." Or they may show you a very different side of being childless. Who knows.  But it will give you a lot more info than a week with your sister's kids. [/quote]

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