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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm absolutely floored by the number of people who think being fat is a choice.  [b]News flash no one wants to be fat and feel miserable about themselves.

Sure you could start starving yourself, which is exactly what people mean when they say eat less.  [/b]Then you are setting yourself up for an eating disorder or some other type of disordered eating.  Is that what you want your kids to see?

I worked so hard at becoming happy with my body after having 2 kids.  Nothing is the same as it was when we married 8 years ago.  I really hope your confidence improves OP because I want you to realize you are worthy of love.   And when you make that realization I hope you give your DH a swift kick in the balls and leave him in the dust for treating you this way.

PP who said this would turn into a thread about low calorie meals and exercise was right.  PPs, this is not about weight and if you think it is you are a dumbass.[/quote]

Newsflash: Noone is suggesting starving oneself but the reality is that most people who are overweight/obese eat way too much. You can argue otherwise till the cows come home but that is the truth. Compound overeating with little or no exercise and the result is the obesity epidemic we have today.

Part of overcoming any problem - especially one that has to do with addiction - is recognizing and accepting that there is a problem and then wanting to do something about it. Just because some people have a metabolism that allows them to eat a lot does not excuse those with a normal metabolism that requires moderation and exercise to keep one's weight under control. And yes, metabolism often slows down as one gets older. Such is life.[/quote]\

Correction:  people who are overweight or obese at some point in their lives ate too much for their current metabolism at the time, or were metabolically compromised and gained wait.  It is NOT true that people whose weight is currently stable are currently eating too much.  Unless you continue to get fatter and fatter, you are probably not eating too much.  But at some point in your life you probably did eat too much.  The problem is, once a fat person is fat, it is difficult if not impossible to become un-fat.  Countless studies have confirmed this.  The body is notoriously unwilling to rid itself of the contents of fat cells once they are full of fat.  It will do all kinds of things to maintain stasis.  To fight that, you have to overcompensate in a huge way by severely restricting calories and by building much more muscle than a thin person at stasis would need to stay at stasis.  Unfortunately, once a fat person has lost a substantial amount of weight, it is nearly impossible to avoid regaining it (95% of people who lose a substantial amount of weight regain it within 5 years, with the exception of those who have had bariatric surgery, which has different risks).

The best thing that a fat person can do is eat whole foods, with a balanced mix of fruits and vegetables, and become more physically fit through strength training and regular cardiovascular exercise.  The worst thing to do is starve yourself and then regain the weight on a rebound - health outcomes for yo-yo dieters are MUCH, much worse than for fat people.  Some fat people who become much more fit also become less fat.  If that's you, bonus!  But if your body shape does not change substantially, you can still greatly improve your health by becoming more fit.  Your heart rate will improve, blood pressure will improve, blood sugar will improve, and all of this will be good for your health.  Try to focus on health, not appearance.  (I know this won't make the OP's husband less of a jerk, unfortunately, since he is likely more concerned with appearance.)[/quote]

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