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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To the low drive spouses, if sex is not important to you, why do you want to be married?  Can you just admit that you're only there for the money, or someone to take care of you, or just want a roommate?  Because once you admit this, your spouse may allow you to keep it if they can just fuck elsewhere.

Duty sex is terrible. [/quote]

Duty sex isn't any more fun on the low drive end. :lol:

I have offered spouse an amicable divorce. He doesn't want it. I don't really disagree. We have two kids and the oldest is SN.  The kids needs us to be together for right now.

DH has permission to get what he wants, wherever he wants, from whomever he wants, whenever he wants. He doesn't want that. What he wants is to have sex with me, the way we had sex when we were in our 20s.

Many things have been tried to ramp up my sex drive. Weekends away. Medication (bupropion) to ramp up my sex drive.  Estrogen cream. Tantric sex class. Therapy.  It's not happening. It's dead, Jim.  (I don't really miss it, BTW. It was fun while it lasted, but I'd rather have a glass of wine and a good book at this point in my life.)

We compromised.  We have sex once a week and I blow him once a week. I try to make it enjoyable.  My skills weren't bad back in the day, and they're still there.  [/quote]

This is really depressing. A husband who really loves his wife -- he has a free pass to go have sex with the rest of the world but what he wants is the woman he married. A wife who really loves her husband -- she has made great efforts to regain her sex drive and is gutting out the weekly sex and blowjobs. But, despite their best intentions and best efforts, the mismatched sex drives looks like a big source of unhappiness for both.

Also, of course PP doesn't miss her sex drive -- it's because her sex drive is gone. [/quote]

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