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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m talking about someone who is a lawyer and makes very good money, but:

* never tips or donates
* almost never eats out, and if she does it’s always the cheapest place or the cheapest thing on the menu
* avoids things like concerts, sporting events, festivals, shows, spas, etc. because she it’s as a waste of money
* doesn’t spend money on entertainment, events, gifts, Ubers, clothes, etc.
* hates paying for convenience (delivery fees, checked bags, valet, subscriptions, etc.)
* travels a few times a year but always very cheaply (budget airlines/basic hotels/red-eyes/points deals)
* researches everything and buys the cheapest/highest-quality version of literally everything from toothpaste to furniture
* can’t fathom spending $200 on a dress or $2000 on coat

[b]Would men see this as financially responsible and disciplined, or as overly cheap/miserly? Especially in dating, does this kind of mindset help or hurt?[/b][/quote]

It doesn’t matter what the crowd source opinion is, at the end of the day she either finds someone with the same mindset or someone who, while maybe not as frugal, doesn’t care enough about those things that it will be an issue.

Personally I always go back the quote “ Cost and worth are two very different things."  I’ve seen people purchase a house that will be torn down for half a million but are upset if they get the wrong amount back in change (less than a dollar), or would never spend money on x but would spend maybe equivalently on something else.  People value different things. As a women, when I was dating, the majority of those items would have been compatible for me.  The only thing that would give me pause is that there appears to be no flexibility or generosity when it comes to others.  Even if you would take the crazy cheap 3 connection flight on your own, if you were traveling with others or getting a flight for your 80 year old barents, I would want the person I am dating to have some flexibility and compromise and be wiling to pay a little more.[/quote]

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