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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had this mom friend for a while who would do that. I'd invite her and then instead of saying no she would say yes but then show up very late (like an hour + to a sit down dinner) or cancel last minute. We interacted a lot beyond that due to kids so it felt perpetually hot and cold. At some point I had enough, but I think on some twisted level she DID want to be invited and then treat me carelessly like some sort of power play to show me where I stood.[/quote]

And you affirmed her stature by repeatedly inviting her to things and remaining cordial with her. Why? Why were you so hard up to "befriend" her? Because you lack self-worth or you were trying to use her to social climb?[/quote]

Can we not do this weird DCUM rhetorical move where we somehow try to flip it that the normal person behaving typically is somehow the problem? [/quote]

Thank you! I love that inviting my kids friends moms into my home automatically translates to being a “orbiter” and “FYI they’re all group chatting about how pathetic you are.” People actually think this way?[/quote]

Being pushy and trying to befriend random parents when you're middle aged typically comes across as a bit off and desperate. Sorry to be the bearer of that reality. Normal, successful, socially-skilled middle aged parents have enough friends.[/quote]

Wow, so if someone moves to this area in mid-life they should just give up any hope of making friends because everyone automatically thinks they're desperate?[/quote]

I mean…yeah? The premise teases out something is off about your hypothetical person. Why wouldn’t a middle aged person have a busy and thriving home life, with a super solid friend group, plus work demands? Such a person is never going to be overly consumed with finding new friends and orbiting people. Also, how could a married, college educated professional (likely 4 degree programs between spouses), with decades of combined professional work experiences, move to one of the largest most educated regions of the country and not have any friends or an “in” with any network to give them immediately credibility and trust? It’s…off.[/quote]

People do move to new areas where they don't know anybody all the time...[/quote]

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