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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have made the first move before and I found that in those relationships (or maybe just situationships?), the men just weren't as into me. I think that the dynamic where a woman is more into the man than he is into her is a recipe for disaster. For good relationships, a man needs to be really into the woman because men don't tend to invest in relationships as much as women naturally do. But a man will bend over backward to make a woman happy if he is really into her.

Obviously there are many happy relationships where the woman has made the first move and there is absolutely nothing wrong with doing so. But at some point I stopped making the first move and I'm glad I did. If a man didn't make the first move, I knew that a) he couldn't pick up on social cues b) he didn't feel capable of handling rejection or c) he just wasn't into me.[/quote]

This is the answer.
I remember when I was 19 I made the first move on a guy. He was a very shy nerd who had never had a girlfriend (cousin's friend) and my cousin encouraged me to go for it since he'd be so thrilled. He was pleasantly surprised and went along with it but it was only a couple months before he was complaining that I basically wasn't his type. He ended up ending things because "I've realized I prefer Asian women" and stayed single for a few years after that until he found his dream girl. 
The man needs to be crazy about the woman or he won't treat her well.[/quote]

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