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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH claimed to "love" our dog so much - he's love how she'd sit with him, loved talking about her, loved showing people her picture (she was a beautiful large dog he thought was very cool)....and gave no shits whether or not she was walked, did absolutely nothing to help with her anxiety (which had her miserable) or really cared for in any real way.

Dads often seem like this - love like its a noun that you have for someone / something versus a verb that involves actions and care about their wellbeing [/quote]

This is how my dad "loves" me. He liked to brag on my good grades and college acceptances but he has virtually no interest in me as a person. He only cares about me insofar as I can reflect something positive back on to him.

Fortunately my DH is a way better dad than that. He truly likes spending time with our DD and cares about her as a person. It's more important to him that she feels good about herself and content in her life than that she achieves things he could brag about to others. I love that about him.[/quote]

My late dad was the same way. But he was not a bad dad. He just wasn't the type to be affectionate. His way of showing that he cares was through actions money for whatever I needed, if something bothered me he inquired about specific things he could do to solve them. But as a society now we are demanding more from men, we want them to see a more emotional side. I am not sure if that's always fair and I say this as a woman. My current DH is more affectionate but not as practical. I still had to call my dad to fix many things or if I needed something urgent to be fix. [/quote]
Those aren’t the same things onsite things.

Knowing how to manually fix things doesn’t correlate or negate knowing how to listen to others or put your chosen spouse or own kids’ needs before your own. [/quote]

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