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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not especially relevant if kids “like” daycare. Obviously it’s much better if they do but it can still be an undesirable setup in terms of cortisol control, emotional regulation, exposure to aggression, etc. It can dictate how effective your own parenting is. Try doing oh crap or RIE when your child is in a center and you’ll be undercut all day long.

Daycares also allow so little risky play (understandably!) and food and naps are all based on convenience. An individual caregiver—dad, nanny, grandma—can allow a child much more independence and autonomy. That matters for everything from anxiety prevention to gut health.

[b]Parents also mistakenly believe that all the enrichment found in daycares matters. It doesn’t—a toddler doesn’t need to be shuffled from art to cooking to French in siloed stations.[/b] [/quote]

You act like daycare is a behemoth

Good lord [b]the extent that some women will go to to justify not working is insane[/b]. Work isn’t that bad you know [/quote]

+1 It's almost funny. 
In my experience SAHMs seem much less risk averse than daycare, e.g. hovering over their kid in the park or playground so they don't get hurt, watching their every move. Also SAHMs are just as likely to fill their kids schedules with enrichment classes which are for socializing with other moms, more than anything the kid will acquire as a toddler. But I guess you can justify just about anything.[/quote]

Your "experience" of SAHMs doesn't constitute a universal truth. And for every SAHM you've seen "hovering so they don't get hurt" etc., I've seen one who kicks back on a bench across the playground and lets the kids extricate themselves from whatever's happening. So please don't make generalizations about what all SAHMs do, based on your limited observations. As for classes -- you have no idea how little the parents actually socialize in many toddler classes. [b]Sure, some do these classes just to get out for themselves, but not all are there to socialize.[/b] Regarding justifying just about anything--Sounds like you want to justify your own bias against women who are making choices for which you judge them. [/quote]

Again, you are trying to rationalize everything from your own standpoint and bias against daycare (don't generalize SAHMs? how about not generalizing all daycares?).

Case in point regarding the bolded- what are the SAHMs doing in mommy and me classes if not for socializing with each other? You just said that these classes are useless for the kids themselves ("a toddler doesn’t need to be shuffled from art to cooking to French in siloed stations"). Do they sign up for these classes just to burn through cash or what??
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