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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh, I can't stand people like you, OP, not being able to handle kindness and compliments. Your post sounds like a humble-brag disguised as a feminist rant.[/quote]

The point is that it's not kindness. It is not kind to tell someone how great they look even when they are telling you that they don't feel right.

And also sometimes there's an expectation that goes long with "you look amazing." A lot of people expect new mothers to be happy and are angry when they are not -- there is still a pervasive cultural belief that a woman with a baby has achieved the apex of female life achievement, and therefore she better be happy. Despite greater awareness around PPD and maternal mental health issues. Sometimes people still get mad at postpartum women for not being content. "You look amazing" can also come with this pressure to be happy and have no complaints.[/quote]
OP didn’t say she’s telling people she feels bad. Many women appreciate the compliment, so please confine your requests to YOU.
I do hope you seek help if pu need it. This anonymous rant against people who are tisn’t the best way.[/quote]
I can just as easily say many of us don't like it, and it needs to stop, for many reasons discussed in this thread. [/quote]

Listen, some of ya’ll just need to be patient.  People talk to you now and try to compliment you now because they just don’t know you well enough yet to know better.  But keep on fighting the good fight and soon enough you’ll find that no one will speak to you ever again without a *very* specific reason.[/quote]

The irony is that op made a simple and obvious suggestion - don’t comment on a postpartum body, it’s fraught. And a bunch of people snapped bc they are so fragile they can’t process simple feedback/critique of their behavior, learn and move forward. The latter is the type of person who will drive people away. [/quote]

I made the post you just responded two and there are at least two other posters in this thread I’d happily go out for drinks with.  The rest of you over-sensitive, miserable, navel gazing ninnies can kick rocks.  Happy to drive your type away![/quote]

That’s great but the point was that you lack self awareness[/quote]

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