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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And beyond the cleaning fee. There are other fees: electricity, water, gas. Paper products and other consumables need to be refreshed. Heating a pool is very expensive so what if your friends decide to turn that feature on? There is a house manager that needs to check on the home to make sure everything is stocked up and put away for the next set of renters, and locked up. It’s stressful!

People who don’t have a second home, do not know! [/quote]

I do have a second home and we do let friends stay there. We don't rent it out. If I am crying over electricity, water and gas, I would not have bought a second home. Sometimes, we don't use our house for months. I knew that going in. I am not going to stress over a property. If you can't really afford a second home, don't buy one. [/quote]

I'm confused.  If you actually do own a second home (which I doubt) why are you so worried about what other people who own second homes are doing?  Did you antagonize them in a way that they will no longer invite you, or something?

I don't expect anyone with a second home to invite me or not invite me.  You seem to be pouting, and trying to dictate what you want them to do.  How is that working for you?  I don't know anyone with a second home who pouts over what their buddies with second homes do or don't do. Peculiar behavior for an adult, really.

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Do you present people who come to dinner at your (first or second) home with a bill at the end of the meal, too?
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If they ask to come over without being invited and bring nothing to the table I might. [/quote]

That's the difference. When I invite people to my primary home or my second home, they are my guests. I make them comfortable, provide the food, and would certainly never ask them to pitch in. If someone asked to come to my primary home or my second home when I am not there, they no longer feel like friends or guests. They feel like someone who wants to use my stuff, but also doesn't want to be a paying customer. No matter how much money or property I have, I don't see why I would randomly share it with people who are treating me as a useful person to know after I've treated them as a friend. Real friends come for the company, not for the house. And I don't need fake friends.[/quote]

We have friends who stay with us, and also use our places when we're not there. We also stay with them, and also use their places when they're elsewhere. We have keys to each other's houses.

I'm sorry you feel used.[/quote]

DP here.  I think PP is making the point that you might be one of those, not that she is surrounded by that type - which is understandable, because they exist.  You do seem defensive, however.

There are certain people that you want in your house when you are away, and other kinds of people that you would not want in your house while you are away.  As long as you are not the latter, don't worry about it so much. [/quote]

To add, if you are nice enough, maybe the owners will tell you where to find local well-kept insider information on what to do and where to go ;)  [/quote]

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