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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see my in-laws quite a bit. But I don’t really enjoy them. They are anxious and self centered, but not toxic.

What I’ve learned from them is how much guilt does NOT improve relationships. It makes spending time with them painful. They want to lecture us and treat us like kids (we are in our lates 40s!). So, I’m more worried about how I’ll win over my kid’s eventual partners so that they enjoy spending time with me. [/quote]

How is this not toxic?[/quote]

I'm the quoted PP.  They are challenging people, but at their core still good.  So it can be hard to spend time with them sometimes, but it's not corroding my self worth.  It's more I just have to smile and nod a lot and never talk about anything too real.  And occasionally I need to ignore a temper tantrum from my MIL.  But they aren't like actively trying to make my life terrible or insult me, they are just emotionally stunted and needed more therapy than Boomers have ever had.  My FIL could use an anti-anxiety med and my MIL could use an anti-depressant, but of course they don't think that.[/quote]

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