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An 8 year old boy is MUCH too old to be in a women's locker room where all the patrons are required to take a public nude soap shower, a 10 year old even more so.  I would complain, loudly, to management, and probably say something angry to your face if it were a 10 year old.  If you don't like/agree with the rules, fine--don't patronize that facility.   But if you do, you need to abide by the rules.[/quote]

Not to mention how awkward and weird this would actually be for a 10 yo boy (or 8 yo boy for that matter)...

I mean, really? Your 8 yo is fine with seeing all his friends happily use the boys locker room (which is consistent with what he does at school), but when he is with mommy he needs to use the girls' locker room?

How pathetic.[/quote]

My son has never asked to be able to use the men's locker room.  I doubt that he would be very happy with being made to go into the men's locker room alone.

To the best of my recollection,  I don't recall having ever seen one of my son's male friends at the pool.
The only thing that would have been awkward for my son about using the women's locker room is if I were to make him take the pre-swim shower in the nude, or make him change out in the open. But I let him go into a toilet stall to change into his swimsuit, and he showers off in the swimsuit. After his swims he goes back into the toilet stall to change back into his regular clothing.[/quote]

I'll tell you what I think is weird - that your son is dressed (in his bathing suit) around all these naked women.  I'm not trying to be snarky, but how do you justify in your head that your daughters have to be naked in front of their brother, but your son doesn't have to be naked in front of his sisters.  It's sending the message that your son's privacy is more important than your daughters' privacy.  And you keep saying it's awkward for your son to be in the nude around the females, but never one word about how awkward it is for your daughters to be nude around a male.  there's something odd about that to me.

And again, I'm really not trying to be snarky - I don't think I would have even posted on this thread if you treated all your kids' privacy the same (all take nude showers or none take nude showers) but still wanted your son to stay with you - that part I can understand - but what's with this double standard?[/quote]

I appreciate what you're saying. And I appreciate your concern for my daughters! Thank you for that!

But the thing is that I do not MAKE my daughters take nude showers. I agree that it would be wrong to MAKE my daughters take nude showers in front of their brother while allowing my son to not be nude in front of his sisters.

However, my daughters are not bothered by showering in the nude while there brother is in there. The very first day that we went to the pool, I told my daughters that they could do the same thing as my son, change in a toilet stall, and then rinse off in their swimsuits. They said that they didn't feel any need to do that. So they do the same routine as I and all of the others in the locker room. They are both used to showering around other females from their school sports teams and gym class, anyway.

My daughters are 15 and 12 years old, they're big-sisters. They have in the past chosen to take their little brother into the shower or bathtub at home, and I guess they feel that it's nothing that he hasn't seen before? I would imagine that they will feel differently about that in a couple of years when their little brother isn't so little anymore? Either way, I will tell them to be more conservative around their brother in another couple of years, before puberty kicks in.

I do appreciate people making what they consider to be helpful suggestions without insulting me, I wish everyone would be kind with their suggestions and not get personal. I'm just a mother trying to be the best parent that I can be![/quote]

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