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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will help out but I will not pay the full ride.

They will have to get student loans. I paid my way through college and it made me really think about how I spent my hours on the weekends while my friends were out every night with $50 bar tabs I was (in addition to my real job) working for a caterer to help pay off student loans.

I will also not pay for a car, phone, cable, or insurance.

I have boys so I will give them a certain amount of money when they get married to do with as they will - rehersal dinner or down payment on a house - up to them. 
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Am i reading this correctly? You will give them a lump sum for a rehearsal dinner or a down payment for a house, but not for college?  I wonder how they'll make the house payments and student loan payments.[/quote]

You clearly missed the point. I will give them money when they get married as a gift (not $100K more like $10K) - I will not dictate how they spend it. [b][u]If they are getting married I suspect they don't have student loans anymore[/u][/b]. If they use it for a rehersal party I will be disappointed.[/quote]

This is hilarious - do you really think that your kids (who you say will have to take out student loans to pay for college) will no longer have student loans at the time they get married?

Have you read posts on this board about crippling student debt?  Debt that stands in the way of buying a house, having a child, paying for childcare?

Have you been paying any attention at all?[/quote]

I paid my student loans off before I got married. I waited until I was finacially stable. I did not buy a fancy car.  I lived at home and paid the rent there (which sucked). I worked a 2nd job. I did not go to bars and pay $50 bar tabs that I can't even image what they are now.  Yes if my kids work, buckle down - I think they will be able to pay their student loans off before they are 30 with a little help - not me paying the full tab.

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One of the many reasons I will do everything in my power to get my kids through college with zero debt is that I do not want student debt to hamper/limit them during a time in their lives when they are exploring options.  I want them to be free to live abroad (as I did), take piddly-pay, socially important jobs that are interesting to them, and yes, marry if they wish, without student debt standing in the way.  [/quote]

This is what my parents always said too, and I am so grateful for it.  [/quote]

PP you quoted, and yes, my parents took this view as well.  (My mother is the one I posted about above, who wore polyester pants and drank powdered milk to make it happen for us.)  When I graduated from college, I went abroad and lived and worked there for several years.  I earned nothing, living with roommates in a crappy apartment in the center of a major city, and worked some interesting jobs for little pay.  I could never have pulled this off if I had had student debt, and I am forever grateful, because I now know that the experience shaped my life for decades to come.[/quote]

I think our parents sound very similar! I am the one who posted that my parents always told us, "NO, b/c we are saving for college," whenever we whined, "Why can't we go to Disney Lane like everyone else?  Why can't we go to Europe for vacation? blah blah blah"   :wink:[/quote]

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