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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's a lot of talk about not feeling like you belong, and not a lot about moving to a brand new small town or rural area where you don't know anyone in middle age. Have any of you done this? It's a HUGE ask. It's not just giving up a career, but also any social networks and support systems you've built up over the years. And it gets harder every time as you get older. Why would everyone assume OP would be fine being completely cut off from everyone but her husband? Yikes. [/quote]

You are setting a dichotomy up in a way that proves your point.

You can move places you know people. You can move closer to family. And you can build community where you move, and it might be easier to do so if (1) you are happier on a day to day basis, and (2) you have more time and money because you are no longer in a place that is so work focused and expensive.

I'm not saying everyone should move, but I have known several people who have moved out of DC to more rural places, in their 30s or even 40s, and yes, they are happier. It's not for everyone but it is for some people.

The key is to be running towards something, not away from something else. People who make big changes because they really want something tend to do what it takes to make it work. If OP was just saying that her DH hated DC for this and that reason, I might agree with you. But he very clearly has a specific idea of where he wants to live and the qualities he'd like it to have, and that's not here. In my observation, people like that who do move often wind up much happier.[/quote]

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