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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thank you for these responses, they are interesting and helpful and helping me to see other perspectives.

[b]The main issue is that my child is not invited anywhere by her friends, either to their house or to meetup at a park, etc[/b].  DC is always asking, "why doesn't my best friend ever invite me over, they always come here."  That's my question too.  We host a ton but I'm wondering why it's not reciprocated, and I'm guessing it's mainly because families want to invite over other families with same-aged kids but that just seems a little limiting.  When I was growing up my sister had a best friend who was an only child, and when that child came over, I didn't have anyone to play with and that was fine, I just did my own thing because my sister wanted time with her friend solo.  It was never an issue the way it seems to be today.[/quote]

I am sorry, that sounds tough. And the way you are outlining the main issue here, it doesn't seem fair. Likely they just have busier lives than you all or prioritize differently.
However, when I read your first post -- it sounds like you expect people to cater to your kid in ways that are unrealistic for those families. If I sensed that from you, and frankly given your first post seemed really entitled and a bit overly focused on your kid (-- but more importantly, with the expectation that OTHER people, e.g. me, be overly focused on your kid)., MAybe you are high maintenance with your kid and play dates, and I don't feel like coplicating my life in the way you want/can complicate yours... and if you expected me to entertain you while keeping my other kids away from our two kids, I would 100% drop it. here are enough other families I can have my child be friends with at this age.  So it could also be that.

This is another quote I agree with "But it's not like playing with your child is some must-have experience"

If you expect a parent (sounds like the mother) to accompany her child to your house for a playdate, but not bring her other children, do you expect that the parents of the other children hire a babysitter or always leave the siblings with the father so as not to cause sibling presence? Playdates then seem really complicated and potentially expensive to other families for no good reason, given that what you are describing would be unusual.[/quote]

+1 sorry to say it, but you need the playdates more than these families with siblings do. They have built in playmates and are often busier to begin with.[/quote]

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