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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean really this thread is a cautionary tale against:

1. Marrying man children.
2. Listening to women who mistake being taken advantage of for “strength”.

Ladies know your worth and teach your daughters![/quote]

Yes a million times. Too late for me. But I'll teach my daughter differently. Put yourself first. Don't take on everything, even if you are more than capable. I had a friend who told me a long time ago that I was doing it all wrong with men. That I should "make them run", act weak and demand they do things for me. She was from Armenia and at the time I thought she had a terribly old-fashioned and sexist view of relationships. But I never forgot what she said and it did resonate with me to some extent.[/quote]

I don't think you have to act weak or helpless. You have standards and he either meets them or goes[/quote]

Exactly, PP.

Yes, all of us *can* abuse our bodies and our mental health, put ourselves at higher risk for post partum depression and psychosis while tanking our milk supply and giving short shrift to the recovery from childbirth which leads something like 1 in 3 postpartum women to experience pain during sex.

Or. We can expect that the resources of the family support us, not just demand from us. My mother paid for baby nurses because she didn’t want her daughters to struggle, she wanted us to heal and enjoy our babies. My husband brought me breakfast in bed because he wanted me to rest and recover just as much as he wanted our babies to grow and thrive and both of those things were more important to him than an extra few minutes of sleep— even when he went back to work.

I do not look at my daughter and think “you should tough it out because I did” I look at her and think “a person worthy of you will value you and I will make sure you value yourself”[/quote]

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