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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just can't help but look around the dinner table thinking ... we're not all here yet.

If that makes ANY sense at all. [/quote]

I get this OP. Though in full transparency I'm 31 and debating number 3. Part of me is like ok my current two will both be in college by the time DH and I are 46. I have older parents and it bummed me out a lot. [/quote]

I had my first at 31. Personally I think kids make you feel younger and a few young moms seemed older when their kids were older. [/quote]

I agree with this.  I'm sort of surprised to see so many posts about how everyone is 'too old' to have babies.  Had my first at 31, my second at 39, and now I'm 42.  I work a demanding job, typically go to bed bed around midnight, get up at 6 am...I have enough to energy to work out in the mornings, volunteer on the PTA, etc.  I'm sorry that some of you young moms seems so exhausted by the time you hit 40, but I assure you, OP, age isn't anything but a number.  I totally understand the concerns about spacing and being a lot older when your child is in college.  But these ridiculous side stories everyone is pushing about how hard parenting is in the 40's are absurd. [/quote]

You need to work on your reading comprehension. Most people are not talking about your 40's. Most people are talking about parenting teens and paying college tuition in your 60's. Becoming new grandparents in your late 70's and beyond.

Our last child will graduate college when we are 53, and we will also be mortgage free by then. Many of these posters will still be attending elementary school back-to-school night at that point. Maybe that's what they want - but its a totally different life.  [/quote]

I don’t understand why people think it’s so bad to be going to back to school night in your 50s or sending kids off to college in early sixties?  It just doesn’t seem that bad to me.  Nothing to worry about. Dying early I worry about (but likely would have worried about this even if I had my kid at an earlier age.) 
Elementary school back to school nights and college visits NBD.  [/quote]

PP you quoted. I guess I am the "selfish" one because I want to spend my 50's and 60's traveling and enjoying life with my husband. We want to retire early. And if we are lucky we will have some grandkids while we are still relatively young that we want to be involved with. Other people lived this kid free existence in their 20's and 30's and we did not. So its just a tradeoff. But I adore my kids and parenting, and if having them in my late 30's and early 40's was my only option, of course I would have still done it. I think the confusing part to people is that OP already has 2 healthy kids. But I was young and I still stopped at 2 healthy kids. [/quote]

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