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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who have the luxury of this choice - staying home or working full time - should do what they want, OP. For many if not most women, it is not even an option.

The financial aspects are important but aren’t the only important thing to consider. I stayed home for several years. I wish I hadn’t. I think I was depressed, and I knew a number of SAHMs who were medicated for depression and anxiety. I’m happier working, but that’s just me. Watch for depression and anxiety, especially as your kids grow up and your role changes, and as you hit perimenopause, which can wreak havoc on your mind and body.

Just enjoy your life. All we really have is now. :)[/quote]

I have had several family members get CRAZY defensive about being SAHM (basically if you say you like your job or anything at all about work you are “looking down at them”) and never really understood why because I just don’t understand why anyone cares. My deciding to work in no way reflects on anyone deciding to stop working. I think there are pluses and minuses to both especially right now. I hate seeing judgmental posts about either choice.[/quote]

Background: I’m a SAHM. I have a friend who is also a SAHM and is from an area where lots of women SAH. When she and her husband were in the  DMV for a couple years, she told me that when people asked her what she does, she says “I *choose* to stay at home with my children.” I was like wft?? She said that people gave her weird looks and I’m like yeah, because that’s a bizarrely passive aggressive thing to insert into a normal conversation, not because they’re judging you. I just thought it was so hilarious that she was proud of herself for standing up for herself like that.

I know that people judge me for staying at home, but in-person I got the impression somebody was judging me for it only once in my 12 years of doing this. I know what when people say “what do you do all day?” they’re either asking out of curiosity or looking for ideas. I’m sure some people do get lots of crap about it but the vast majority of people just don’t care. [/quote]

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